I have no idea what I am doing in this life?
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I am 29 years old. I live in Dubai which have been the best and most challenging of my life, and have a career in project management, lovely car, amazing apartment and I am actively dating with no problems. I am sitting up now and thinking, what do I want to do with my life. I am completely and utterly confused. I still love my ex girlfriend, I have a married girl who is now pregnant with my kid, which she is terminating. I want to leave then i don’t then i do, then i think I want to sit on the beach in Thailand. I am completely and utterly confused. I keep thinking about ditching the material life and just travelling and then i think i cant because i want to have achieved something by the time im 30 which is this year. I have a great education and CV……..Please can someone guide me on practical ways to get some perspective on my life. I dont see my family really and havent had their guidance much but thats mostly choice. Its a hard place to be approaching 30 and saying, I have absolutely no idea which way to turn….Please help. I just seem to be completely paralysed by indecision which is terrible because i have never really suffered like this before. I have always known what to do and the time to do it. Now I am just here thinking, leave, dont leave, leave dont leave, which country, what will i do, shall i just sit on the beach for a while….? HELP!!!!!
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Answer by Daniel
No one knows what they truly want. The purpose of life isnt in knowing what you want or knowing what the purpose is, but in actively seeking knowledge of purpose.
Youre much better off in life than I am. Im 29 and unemployed… and not because I want to be. Six years of honorably naval service, where I served as an electrician on a nuclear power plant, and many times was the senior person in charge of that plant. But, I served during a time when the middle east war was controversial… and now the economy is crappy… someone with my background cant get a job flipping burgers, beat out by 16 year old high schoolers on account of what? I do not know. I would have had a better chance in life had I sat on my butt until 26 and looked for work then, than coming out of the military at 26 and looking for work. At my age Im expected to have finished a masters degree or better, and anyone who hasnt is either unmotivated or stupid… with no regard for time spent in honorable service of country delaying my academics. Im a 29 year old with nothing to show for but six years of military service, which no civilian seems to respect.
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No one knows what they truly want. The purpose of life isnt in knowing what you want or knowing what the purpose is, but in actively seeking knowledge of purpose.
Youre much better off in life than I am. Im 29 and unemployed… and not because I want to be. Six years of honorably naval service, where I served as an electrician on a nuclear power plant, and many times was the senior person in charge of that plant. But, I served during a time when the middle east war was controversial… and now the economy is crappy… someone with my background cant get a job flipping burgers, beat out by 16 year old high schoolers on account of what? I do not know. I would have had a better chance in life had I sat on my butt until 26 and looked for work then, than coming out of the military at 26 and looking for work. At my age Im expected to have finished a masters degree or better, and anyone who hasnt is either unmotivated or stupid… with no regard for time spent in honorable service of country delaying my academics. Im a 29 year old with nothing to show for but six years of military service, which no civilian seems to respect.
Turn the brain off get in a place look in the mirror stop trying to impress others. talk to you about you the good and bad ask you the tough questions and DON”T lie to yourself..Find a stranger and Do somthing good for them for no reason.. Feel the joy of giving and your talent and reason too be will shine through all the boogled BS… SMILE ALWAYS SMILE>>
drop the age requirement issue. that’s nonsense. some arbitrary number you dreamed up.
you need to try and remember yourself. which is to say, you need to become aware of your consciousness. Intentionally observe yourself observing things. The more you can do this, the closer you come to waking up.
If you wake up, your life will become very very different than what it is now. Now you live your life entirely in sleep. Because you can’t remember yourself.
There is no purpose in life – life is the destination, not the journey. Or rather, the end is not important – it’s the journey that really is worth seeing.
I would, first of all, not worry. If you have a wife, and you still love her, then I would say that you should stay. This is your duty to her. Can’t go running off on a whim ^_^ (bit early for a midlife crisis my friend).
Second of all, do what Minski above me said. Be aware. That is how we wake up. Just be here. Now. In the present moment, wherever that is. Maybe that is your computer screen. Maybe you look out the window and see a tree. Just loko at the tree. Just be there.
You see, the only time we are unhappy is if we judge things, when we have something to be unhappy about. If you stop judging things with your thoughts, and just see things, when you are just aware, then you have nothing to be unhappy about. No judgments, nothing ‘bad’. That’s all ‘bad’ is. A judgement. Nothing is actually bad, we just project the label onto it.